After seeing this wonderful story, I thought I'd do a little something here to collect thoughts about Eliseu. His visa interview is next week, and he's very anxious to get it over with. We have a huge folder full of "evidence of relationship," but I thought it'd be fun to open up the comments for people to write about him and us. If they're good, he can print them and add them to the documents.
So I'll go first.
First off, I tend to think love is gross. I hate PDA and sappy couples and women who can't shut up about their significant other, and I try to avoid doing all three, but inevitably, I have found it difficult to do so. I at least try to keep it to a minimum, but in this case I'll make an exception.
Though we couldn't come from more different places, I really believe that a twist of fate brought us together, because we are frighteningly good for each other, like two lost puzzle pieces. Our personalities and lifestyles are so compatible that I was surprised how easy it was when we first moved in together, especially since he's so flexible and easy going. Whenever we have a problem, we work it out, and he always apologizes eventually, when he knows it's his turn to do so. He's incredibly thoughtful, and always willing to help out. He's open-minded and willing to accept new ideas, especially when they're important to me. If I care deeply about something, he'll make a point to learn about it and share my interest in it. One example of this is the Goldman case: he has been absolutely vital during the entire campaign, spreading the word to Brazilians, helping with translations, running errands, and editing and loading lots of videos on to Youtube.
Similarly, I've learned to appreciate new things from him, like his love of nature and saving the environment, Brazilian music, and graphic design. We have so many things in common, so many things we both enjoy, that it's easy to get along. The only serious diverging interests we have are action movies vs. chick flicks, and SWAT vs. no SWAT. [SWAT is a computer game about war and I do not like it one bit, especially since he'll play for hours at a time. Luckily, it's not coming with him to the States.]
We've grown so close that for the month we've been apart, I've felt like something is always missing, the kind of feeling you have when you get to work and realize you left your cell phone at home, or your purse in a cab. I feel hollow when he's not here.
He's funny and witty, making a point to make me laugh all the time. He's insanely sweet. He's beautiful. He's endlessly patient. He's the kindest, gentlest person I've ever met. And we love each other fiercely.
I'll do whatever it takes so we can be together, even if it means initially getting married in a quick civil ceremony rather than a big blowout wedding I really want (we're planning on doing that in two years, when he gets his residency). And he'll do whatever it takes too, since he's moving to a country he's never been to and is starting off at his in-laws' house. Sometimes I wonder if he's something of a saint. I am so grateful to have him.
If you have any thoughts you'd like to share about Eli or why you agree he should come to the US, please leave them in the comments, and I'll put them in a document for Eli to print and bring to the interview.